Since I'm on a roll with getting out painful memories I might as well throw this one out there too...
I think it's a well known fact among those who know me that I don't like the song "Girls Just Wanna Have Fun", but I think the only person that really knows why is my husband. Until now he is the only person I have told this too...
Scene: My Sophomore year of high school, in the hallway between classes.
I was in my locker switching out books minding my own business when a guy came up behind me and starts dancing and singing "that song", and then went into a bump and grind motion bumping into me so hard that i fell into my locker. The motion was strong enough that not only did I have trouble sitting the rest of the day, I could tell he had a boner... I feared he and his friends would try something me later. I really had no idea what he was thinking. This guy always had about 4 other guys with him all the time. This same group harassed me relentlessly years earlier in 8th grade shop class! I don't think they ever touched me then, but they "got close" many times and were rather suggestive. I really lived in fear for a long time after, always looking over my shoulder, never knowing if the situation would progress anymore.
In hindsight, I probably should have told someone, but I thought what would they do, really? He didn't really "hurt" me, I felt like I'd get laughed out or something or worse he and his buddies would have really done something. So I just kept my mouth shut about it. Looking back that incident could have got him in some serous trouble, it totally fits the description of sexual assault. Even now 12 years later I get physically ill when I hear that song...
I was waiting for the day that I'd have to see him again, and it finally happened. One day on facebook, gotta love facebook...there's his name and picture in my suggested friends.... I almost threw up, seriously. It took a couple days for me to be able to even look at his profile. From the posts I could see it looked like he did some time in prison. I'm not sure how to feel about that, I guess it's good he was punished for something? Makes me wonder if he would have done anything more if he'd had the chance? Thank God I never found out. I could also tell he has a daughter that is the same age as my daughter. Every now and then he still pops up as a suggested friend, along with his little cronies. I have not friend-ed any of them and I don't think I ever will.
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